Amore - A Time to Celebrate

Wedding Day

I sent out a newsletter this week about weddings, showers, baptisms and baby-namings aptly called, "Time to Celebrate."  Festivities are opportunites to reflect upon happy times, enjoy ourselves and be there for our friends and family.

Science has proven that The, “love hormone,” oxytocin is real and that during weddings and parties our active levels of oxytocin are increased. The effects of oxytocin are a party gift. If single, you may find a new friend or, “love the one you're with”.   Currently if you are single and sad, recently broken up and angry,  or unhappily connected - lean into the happiness around you - science tells us it is contagious.

Sugar Perfection

I'm sure that, like me, you have all been to weddings that seemed a little sour.  We know the marriage isn’t going to work. We are sure the couple isn't going to stay together and worse, the poor child is going to be raised in one of the most dysfunctional households this side of reality TV!  What do we do?

Speaking from experience, drink, eat, dance, find someone funny, and or leave early and recover.  At a close friend’s wedding, while dancing with her dad, he said out of the blue, "how long do you give the marriage?"  His estimate - six years.  And sadly he was right.  At one wedding I witnessed the bridal party sobbing at the altar.  The tears being shed were not joyous, it did not last.

Be careful when exposing others' information with the bride, groom or parents.  Often times it's best to wait until years later and they are in a happier place.  When asked if you thought "he/she was so bad why didn’t you say anything at the time?"  Avoid the friendship rabbit hole and let there be a moment of silence. Respond by saying, "what could I/we have said, suppose we were wrong?"  But there are some things you must say.  If you know in advance about former stalking issues, appearances on, "My Big Fat Crazy Gypsy Wedding," "the Bachelor," "Bachelorette," or dreams of kiddie beauty pageants, share the information before the event.  Please!

Talk to the Animals

To embrace the oxytocin in our lives, I am encouraging everyone to send a love note to a couple, the baby soon to be born, or the infant.  A love note that comes directly from your heart and words that will last a lifetime.  Come on, give the gift of your words and show more amore.

For cards that showcase your thoughts, visit my website www.WilfridasCloset.com , find me on Facebook or Emma the Bernese on Facebook wearing her celebration hat.