Something New, Something Blue

Vintage wedding cake toppers
Photo and story by Rita

   August is the second most popular month to get married. Age-old wedding traditions are still upheld but the norms of gift giving have been refashioned. Today many people subscribe to the idea that money or gift certificates is the best present of choice; it answers needs that we as the givers don’t know about, especially in this economy. 

   People on their second or third marriages are often looking to downsize and would probably love to ask for contributions to their kids' college funds or their retirement. These gifts have not yet reached social acceptance. Some people are asking for contributions to charities and nonprofits.  For many “do-over” couples or other couples not in need of blenders and crock-pots, it makes sense.

   People are still being gifted family heirlooms of china and silver and wedding registries are still alive and well. The question remains of how to make any gift—traditional or new age—personal.

   Many of you are in a quandary: you’ve checked the gift registry, spoken with friends and family and even asked the happy couple themselves. Whatever you choose, personalize it!

   Express your intentions for the couple using your own unique words. Maybe through a memory of your shared history, encouraging visions of the future, or expressions of joy in the celebration.  Sharing your honesty with your words for the marrying couple, short or long, adds meaning to their special day.

   I saved the cards that reflect time and thought from my own wedding; I can’t always remember the gift that was given, but I treasure the messages that came with them.

   Are you going to a wedding this month or are you getting married? What are your thoughts on gifts and gift giving? Please share your ideas and experiences with us by posting below.

   Also check out our homepage (Create a Garden or Matters of the Heart) to find the perfect art card to accompany your wedding.